Warning: This is a post about NOT using a camera. Completely a different tune to what you’d expect a photographer to write, and a little bit cheeky, but pretty darn important
It’s funny as a photographer, sometimes your career can wage little wars when it comes to photographing your own family in day to day moments. There’s a little bit of performance anxiety mixed in with just wanting to leave the camera at home for once. The thought of having to process through personal files when you have hours of work editing to do sometimes doesn’t seem worth it.
It’s crazy isn’t it? I actually wage a battle in my mind about wanting to pick up a little point and shoot camera to take with me places vs. what will people think???
Anyways, the point of this post is about not missing those important moments because you’re too busy looking through the lens, especially in this digital age of being able to take 300+ images without a thought. When I think about Avari’s birthday parties over the past couple of years, and going to the lake, I’m usually experiencing the family vacation looking at lighting, setting up shots, and really too busy to actually sit down and enjoy those times with family. I didn’t even realize that I was doing it until I read this blog and all of a sudden everything clicked:
http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/unplugged-wedding
Wow – talk about mind blowing! All of a sudden I realized that my life is completely “plugged in”. The first time I decided to experience a family event unplugged was Avari’s dance recital this year. I did not bring a camera. gasp No ipod pictures, cell phone pictures, or camera pictures. This did not come without anxiety, but I realized afterwards that I was completely fully engaged in watching her, where as I’d usually be checking my lcd, looking at my histogram, and basically not actually paying attention. And you know what? I’m OK with not having a picture because I have that memory!
Tonight we took Avari out for her first ever ride on a pedal bike. The battle started. Bring the camera? Don’t bring the camera? Should I bring the camera Kevin or not? I realized that there needs to be a balance. There are moments in life that need to be recorded, so in the end I did bring it. But I did something that I don’t often do and I handed it over so that I could be a part of teaching Avari how to ride. I think it’s an amazingly proud moment in a parent’s life when they get to teach their child how to ride a bike. (The camera also spent a good amount of time on the ground while we ‘discussed’ the best way to actually make it through this big moment).
At the end of the evening, Avari was doing laps around a proud pair of parents, and I got to come home with only 20 pictures to look at instead of 324.
and one clear favourite:

Moment recorded both in pixels and in memory
I want to challenge everyone to step back and really notice their camera use: The next time you cousin is saying their vows at the alter, are you really present? The next time your child blows out the candles on their cake, did you actually see it in person and not through a 3 inch live view screen?